Tomomi's decision
As I mentioned in a previous entry, Tomomi promised me that she would tell me by April 1 (today) whether or not she would live with me in Chicago. Well, today she gave me two different answers and I'm not quite sure what to think.
Early in the day, I asked her for her answer, and she said she didn't plan to go, but that she might change her mind at some point. Since I had already given her 7 months to think it over, I figured that if she hadn't already decided to go that she wouldn't decide to later either. So I accepted the idea that after I move back that she would no longer be a part of my life and I didn't try to change her mind.
But later in the day, she told me that she would go after all, but that it would be in July 2008. She said that she will start going to an English language school in Chicago then and that between now and then she will save money for tuition and living expenses (since she doesn't plan to work while she goes to school). She says she is 100% sure that this is what she will do and she gave me her word that she will go then no matter what. She said that even if her mother disapproves and tells her not to go she will still go.
Anyway, I'm not sure what to think of all this for two reasons. The first is that after having 7 months to think it over and then giving me her answer, she changed her mind several hours later. The second reason is that even if that is really her intention now, a lot can change in a year.
For now, I'll take her at her word and hope for the best.
Comments
If I had arms that could reach to Japan I'd grab her and shake her for you.
Posted by: Bob Zygala | April 2, 2007 01:49 AM
In my opinion I think she has her reason for acting like that. First, culture different. Second, it is such a serious thing to move to a foreign country (although she's been there) away from what she's used to. There are a lot to think about, you know.
Did you think about her visa? Is she getting a student visa or something like a fiancee visa? If it's the latter she can then work but not as a student......
BTW, I thought of you when I came across to 2 books called "Darling wa Gaijin".
Posted by: Alison | April 2, 2007 07:10 PM
Alison, I agree. It's definately a serious thing to move to a foreign country.
Anyway, we're not engaged, so I don't think we can do the fiancee visa. Since she'll be going there to study, I assume the student visa is what she'll get.
I have "Darling wa Gaikokujin." I haven't gotten around to reading it though. I read another book in the same series though, called "Darling no ataman naka".
Are you still interested in coming to visit us here before I move back?
Posted by: Aaron | April 2, 2007 09:58 PM